The mother of a bride tells her daughter all there is to know about the duties of a wife and mother. When beautiful Nokulunga got married, her mother took her to one side and told her all she knew. She also gave her a special pot, saying: "This is our secret, use it wisely." The mother of a bride tells her daughter all there is to know about the duties of a wife and mother. When beautiful Nokulunga got married, her mother took her to one side and told her all she knew. She also gave her a special pot, saying: "This is our secret, use it wisely."